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Should you “stay together for the kids” rather than divorce?

On Behalf of | Jan 12, 2021 | child custody |

Divorce can be difficult for children, both in the short and long-term. This may prompt many parents in the Birmingham area to “stay together for the kids” even if their marriage is unhappy. However, is this really a better alternative than seeking a divorce? Some research suggests not.

Divorce does have an effect on children

Divorce does affect children in a variety of ways. Infants may be fussy, toddlers may have separation anxiety and preschoolers may act out. School-aged children may be angry or on the other hand may withdraw. Adolescents may feel they need to act like an adult or may engage in risky behaviors such as substance abuse. However, these effects may be overcome with time, communication and care.

Marital conflict may be worse

Exposure to marital conflict may ultimately harm children more than a divorce. A high conflict marriage can be detrimental, as the child may subjected to a lot of anger and resentment between the two people they love the most. In these situations, it may be better to divorce.

Divorce can be amicable

Not all divorces have to be high-conflict. An amicable divorce can help a child move forward following the split. By cooperating and respecting one another, parents can help their child weather the transition from married life to life after divorce. Children are given the sense of security they need when each parent respects the child’s relationship with one another. When parents seek happiness through self-care, it can help a child lead a happy life as well. Whether parents share joint custody of the child following a divorce or whether one parent has sole custody and the other parent has visitation time, an amicable divorce is sometimes the best answer for both parents and children.