Divorce is a difficult process that has even more complications when you have children together. Figuring out child custody arrangements might take a long time until you settle in to the right fit.
Nesting is an arrangement in which children stay in the house while their parents take turns moving in and out. Here is some information from Psychology Today to address whether nesting can make a divorce go more smoothly.
The advantages of nesting
There are many reasons why nesting immediately following a divorce is beneficial for those parents who are able to make it work. If you and your spouse can get along, nesting maintains stability for your children and makes their lives easier in many ways. Your children do not have to disrupt their current routine, and do not have the same worries as children who are living in two places. For example, all of their needed schoolbooks, sports uniforms or musical instruments are in their own space, and they do not need to remember to bring things from the other home.
Nesting also buys you some time for big decisions. This is especially true when it comes to future living arrangements, since it can give you breathing room as you decide whether or not to sell the family home. And if you can figure out a way to either move into a separate space on your property or even share a small second residence with your former spouse, it may save you money.
The disadvantages of nesting
While nesting may be advantageous to children, you might find that it is disruptive to moving on with your life. Constantly moving in and out is difficult. Plus, if you and your former spouse feel the need to maintain two additional properties, it can be an expensive lifestyle.
And, if you have a lot of conflict with your ex, nesting may not be a feasible plan. To make it work, parents need to communicate well with each other, and if you know that is not going to happen, nesting may make the divorce process even more acrimonious.